Beauty Is Skin Deep

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I’ve always known that black women were secretly coveted by other people, but these instagram “influencers” have taken it too far. Stories have surfaced that reveal the true identity of certain instagram profiles and — surprise, surprise — these young women have adorned themselves with specific make-up, hair and fashion to appear Black — And the public believed them. There are a few points to make here:

 

 

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1). Yes, it’s offensive … and creepy. However, I can’t act as if I am totally surprised. As much as people publicly criticize and hate on black women, deep down they admire our melaninated skin, curvy frames, incredible fashion, and bomb-ass hair styles. We’re amazing and wield our black girl magic with every step we take.

WHO WOULDN”T WANT TO BE US??!!

This goes back to being a kid on the playground and being bullied for looking a certain way, when the cause of all that animosity was ENVY. They want to be us so bad! As the saying goes, “They want to be black, but they don’t really wanna be black”. They wish to enjoy and profit off of everything that we create — off of everything that we are — without wanting to experience or empathize with the black struggle or actually learn anything about black culture. People like this get to profit off of and receive praise for impersonating what I ACTUALLY AM. That is unfair. That is ignorance. That is racial privilege. What’s worse, is that these folks never show remorse for their actions. These incidents never spark enough curiosity within them to ask or find out why something like this is offensive. All they do is give an empty apology — if they give one at all — and go about their lives having learned absolutely nothing. It’s nothing new. All I can say is that I’m so glad that these people were exposed.

 


2). It just goes to show that we all must remember that not everything that is presented to us is real. Therefore, never long to look like or live the lives of anyone you see on social media. You don’t know the truth of who they are or their reality. You can admire someone and respect someone, but never place yourself below anyone. And apparently these “influ-LIARS” have no concept of reality either. After being exposed, one of these women said,

“I’m white and I never claimed to be anything else… I’m NOT a ‘posing’ as a coloured person as you claim…
I do not see myself as anything else than white… I get a deep tan naturally from the sun.”

Sis, come on now! I’m giving her ALLLL the side-eyes. No white person has a tan that runs THAT DEEP all year round.

3). You can admire, respect, and love a culture without the impersonation or the theft. Black culture is so dope and runs so strong in so many countries that you cannot deny our influence, our genius, and our beauty because it is everywhere. These women were mirroring what is cool — and BLACK is cool — but they were doing it in a way that was inauthentic and disrespectful. What would be lovely is if our influence was actually acknowleged and Black people — especially Black women — were given the credit for our beauty and creativity.

But I’m sure this story will eventually die, and soon another similar story will resurrect itself and take its place. And when that happens, I will be right here to re-affirm Black women. I will be here to reaffirm myself.

 

 

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White Women Need To Chill

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It is so easy to believe that the cause of the oppression that black people have endured stemmed from White men. After all it was White & Spanish men who forced us onto boats, and enslaved us. It was White men who created laws that to this day have kept black people socially and economically disenfranchised. It was White men who policed us and abused their power by stripping us of ours.
Being that White women have encountered challenges as a result of living in a patriarchal society and have fought to gain their own power, it is assumed that they would sympathize with the black struggle because they, too, have their own struggle. We also assume that as women, it is more in our nature to extend kindness to others — moreso than our male counterparts.

We were wrong.

Now, are there White women who empathize with our struggle and strongly disagree with the blatant injustice we endure, and have taken action to oppose the cruelty thrown against us by showing compassion & respect? Absolutely. Now, are there White women who could care less about black people? Absolutely.
Throughout our time in America, White women have stood next to White men and have hurled hatred at African Americans with audacity. Over time we have forgotten this hatred due to the strong outcry against sexism and the feminist movement. The focus of their hatred shifted from the Black community to one that prioritized their immediate needs as White women.

 

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But with the many recent news headlines about White women calling the police on Black people, we are reminded that many White women fear and assume the worst about the Black community. When someone fears you as a result of their own ignorance and conditioned hatred they will oppose you and attack you.
By White women calling the cops on Black people — Black men, especially — they are utilizing their white privilege to draw harm towards Black people. We all know that when White women cry wolf and shed crocodile tears, the entire village comes out to assist her and to ward off any perceived negative force that dares to come near her. There is and has always been a priority to protect white womanhood, and White women know that there will always be others who will fight and attack on behalf of them. They can cause harm indirectly.  

Once I read the news of a White woman — Teresa Klein — who falsely accused a 9yr.old boy of SEXUALLY ASSAULTING her and called the police on him, I lost it! 

 

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In my mind, I’m like this is damn near Emmett Till all over again!

Why would a 9yr. old grope you, Teresa?!

What was she expecting the cops to do?! Hand-cuff this poor boy? Place him jail?!
Even if the she was sexually assaulted — which she wasn’t — why not address the boy’s mother?? Because she didn’t want to confront her issue face to face and cowardly called the police to do the confrontation on her behalf. That lady was absolutely insane.

 

 

 

Some of these White women are abusing their power. Whether they are demanding that Black people not have a bbq in the park, or demand that a Black child not sell water on a hot summer day, or whether they are questioning the residence of a Black man and demand him to tell her what his apt. number is, or they secretly barge into a Black man’s residence while off duty and shoot him dead for no reason, it is an abuse of power that stems from fear and privilege. 

 

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What’s even more maddening is that these women don’t see their actions as racist. But it is. They would not call the cops if these children or these men were White and they know it. What’s worse is that they feel no remorse for their transgressions until the world berates them and they are forced to give an empty apology.

And now, we have to hear Megan Kelly’s dumb comments about black face not being offensive.

UGH! This stress!

White women, Listen: Chill the f*%k out.

You wield enough power to cause considerable harm to Black people. Your fear is unwarranted, and rooted in bigotry. You have no right to try and control the actions of any Black person, especially Black people who are causing no harm and are minding their own business. Mind your business, sis.
All of this is a reminder that sexism and racism are separate struggles in the eyes of some White women. Even though injustice is wrong no matter the category it falls under, when some White women are fighting for equality, they are fighting for themselves alone. They will line the streets and protest against the patriarchy, but if a Black woman is assaulted by police or dies while in police custody, they are silent.

Let me clarify that I am in no way branding all White women with these actions. I know that there are White women who are allies to the Black struggle and genuinely care. Unfortunately, the bigots are the ones who are getting attention. I need our White, liberal allies to speak out against such cruelty and show solidarity. As Martin Luther King Jr. said: “Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere. We are caught in an inescapable network of mutuality, tied in a single garment of destiny. Whatever affects one directly, affects all indirectly.”

We are all connected. What affects one will affect another. We will never move forward as a country if black people are still considered to be “outsiders” in the land of their birth, or if we are assumed to be “agitators” when in reality we living our lives boldly and without apology — which you feel threatened by.

However, my life is no threat to your life.

So chill the f*%k out.

We have the right to live unapologetically, just like you. We have the right to be here. 

 

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