Car Crashes and Resurrections

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There I was, scrolling through instagram, when I saw a picture of my friend, Binna, lying in a hospital bed. She had gotten into a car accident, but was trying to assure us that she was ok — it was just like Binna to say that. She was the third friend of mine who had gotten into a serious car accident that month. When I saw the picture of her totaled car, which looked like it had been stepped on and squished down by a giant, in addition to her hospital photos where she laid there bruised and cut with a fractured rib, my heart jolted. Binna was in positive spirits, but I was frazzled.

When I finally saw her and asked her about the accident, she only spoke of the good things that happened as a result of it. I told her that there was no doubt that there was a divine hand on her life and I’m sure she felt so blessed to be alive. Binna said that she was definitely blessed. She spoke of how the accident changed her; she claimed that she wasn’t the same person anymore, and that she couldn’t conceive being who she once was. Of course I asked her what she meant by that, and, in retrospect, I probably shouldn’t have asked her to explain such a loaded experience in that rushed moment, but I just had to know something. I could see it was a little challenging for Binna to quickly sum up everything she meant by that comment, and I could see her trying to find the right words. All she could muster up to say in that moment was that she just loved herself more. Not that she didn’t love herself prior to the accident, it’s just that the love she felt for herself now was deeper than it once was, and the things that she used to stress over, she now finds irrelevant, therefore, she no longer stresses over it. There was an appreciation for life itself, for simply being, that she was awakened to.

There was something about Binna saying that she loved herself more that really struck me. I envied her. I wish I carried that same deep love and awareness that she spoke of. Don’t get me wrong. I do love myself, but I can also be pretty hard on myself and readily harp on my self-perceived flaws and countless mistakes. But Binna seemed to be on a different level. She was calm and at peace and happy — un-frazzled. I salivated for the same thing.

Binna’s story is not the first one I’ve heard where someone has had a near death experience that makes them infinitely more grateful for life and for themselves. It’s a shame that life has to be nearly taken before we gain an appreciation for it. I’m on a quest to gain that same depth that Binna now wades in, just without the near death experience lol. However, talking to Binna pushed me one step deeper into that realization. It appears as though her “accident” had a ripple effect and stirred me while I was apparently sleep walking. I’ll take it as one of God’s many signs telling me to chill the f*&k out and take note of all I have to smile about.

Thanks Binna.

New Book Release!

My New Book: “My Quarter-of-a-Century Life Lessons” will soon be available! I’m so happy to have the opportunity to pass along a few life lessons I’ve learned thus far. I have MUCH more to learn, but as I continue to evolve as a person, it is my pleasure to share all that I’ve gained with others. Upcoming book signing to be announced shortly…stay tuned folks!

 

 

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A Little Love Advice

A Little Love Advice.

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I never claimed to be a relationship expert…but there’s one thing I know for sure. Men tend to be simple, while women tend to be more complex. If a guy is interested in a woman, his actions will display that. He will seek her out, initiate communication, ask to spend time, and voluntarily spend his money – do what he can to make sure he is not forgotten in the mind of the lady he is seeking to woo. So, ladies, if there is any advice I can give in order to clear your confused mind, it would be this: Until a man actually shows his interest and is genuine and consistent in his efforts to get to know you, please don’t mistake his pretty words for anything more than that…pretty words. Let those words roll off your back like rain off of a tin roof, smile, thank him for his compliments, and let that be all. Continue to live your life free of stress, doubt, worry and disappointment. No need to check your phone for any missed calls or an unread text – don’t place any expectations on someone you hardly know. Let it simply be a pleasant, entertaining encounter. Words must be in alignment with action, otherwise they mean nothing.

Comparisons

 

Participation in social media makes it easy for us to assume that someone else’s life going better that ours. We  curse our own fate and begin to envy those we see without ever knowing the details of that person’s life or the challenges he/she may face. It’s important to remember – especially in regards to social media- that things are not always as they appear, and that everyone experiences the highs and the lows that come from simply living. Don’t be so eager to forfeit your path in exchange for another’s. You don’t know what it takes to walk in their shoes, nor what they are enduring while on their journey. Instead of resisting your life, choose to be grateful. To compare means to negate all the blessings that have been given unto you.

~BEpifani~

Fear

FEAR.

Fear can serve as a form of self-protection/self-preservation, but fear can also serve as a veil that blinds us to the truth of who we are and all that we should be grateful for. The goal in life is to be able to discern between the two. 

~B’Epifani

Taking Flight

 

 

The older I’ve gotten, the further I’ve evolved, the more people I’ve shed. Learning to fly light felt lonesome at first. But now I’m able to soar higher with those of like spirits, without the weight of fruitless attachments. 

~B’Epifani~

Word Power

 

“Life and Death is in the Power of the Tongue”.

Be careful of what you allow your ears to hear and what you allow your mouth to speak. Root yourself in positivity and you will bear the fruit of what you cultivate.

~Bepifani~